The story of every couple changes and evolves over time. What one partnership can tolerate may feel impossible for another, and this depends on countless factors in each person’s history. Cultural values, beliefs about right and wrong, habits, customs, and the...
Fences, gates, walls, hedges, brambles, mines, broken glass, barbed wire, guns, armed barriers, checkpoints, and border control. All of these are boundaries. When faced with any of them, people become alert and try to think of ways to negotiate and be allowed into a...
In couples therapy sessions, focus is often taken up with hearing and seeing aggression and anger being played out. Passive aggression on the other hand is harder to identify often staying under the radar just bubbling away. Passive aggressive behaviour is defined as...
While listening to the news about Israel and Gaza over the past week I have also beenthinking about writing this blog. Trying to process the enormity of the events meant I found it difficult to know what to write. It is hard to imagine the impact of the suffering...
In recent days the world has been horrified to witness how the age long history of conflict in the Middle East has now turned to full blown war. Families are being torn apart as the conflict escalates. In no way is this a comparison but over the years I have worked...
It doesn’t surprise me that the couples I work with have the same arguments over and over again. Whether it is about how to load the dishwasher (my personal favourite) or not checking in with their partner when they accept an invitation, these tiffs seem to go on...
