Coupleworks Blogs

CELEBRATING THOSE WHO HAVE MADE IT 

CELEBRATING THOSE WHO HAVE MADE IT  An Overview of the Length and Depth of Couple Life Well Lived Coupleworks, our group of veteran relationship counsellors have written scores of blogs to help our clients navigate all sorts of the crisis that will arise in the course...

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Couples dealing with crises.

Couples sometimes come to us at Coupleworks to find the best way through a crisis. We look at how they can work together in order to feel they have some kind of control. This in turn will help them to find some joint necessary strength.  I am not writing about a...

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An Anxious Generation

Anxiety in many different forms is hitting the headlines at the moment and inevitably its consequences end up creating difficulties requiring therapeutic attention. One therapist, Owen O’Kane, has recently had his book ‘Addicted to Anxiety – How to break the habit’...

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Coping with Loss

‘Sometimes it lasts in love. Sometimes it hurts instead…’ Adele ‘The loss of a loved one is one of the most profound experiences of human existence…’ John Bowlby ‘Life can be amazing. And then awful. And then it can be amazing again. And in between the amazing and the...

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POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION

POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION - WHEN BABYSHOCK BECOMES MORE SERIOUS Starting the Therapy Talking to couples negotiating tricky stages in relationships often means that they present with difficulties over communication and mutual feelings of not being heard or understood. This...

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Stuck in a negative pattern.

Every couple is different and yet seek to be the same as other couples who at the same time are trying to fit into the group.  This can be a dilemma for many people living together and seeking harmony. I try to work with my clients to enable a gentle shift in the...

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Why is it so hard to say sorry?

When working with couples, I have often noticed a reluctance, a stubbornness, a resistance that makes it difficult for them to soften enough to say “I am sorry” to their partner. It feels as if these words are somehow an admission of something deeply shameful,...

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Ready to transition to being a grandparent?

As Kathy wrote in the recent blog for Coupleworks and in thinking about what brings people and couples into therapy, it is often when they are facing a major transition in their lives.  Of course, these transitions happen in a multitude of ways.  It may be through the...

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Change and Transitions

‘Therapy is sought, not primarily for enlightenment about the unchangeable past, but because of dissatisfaction with the present and a desire to better the future… A change in the current situation is required and, once established, however small, it necessitates...

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Why don’t I fancy my partner anymore?

Recently, I've worked with several couples who have shared a common concern: they've noticed a decline in their attraction towards their partner. They've described their relationship as more akin to that of siblings than romantic partners and have confessed that they...

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Why do we need rituals

Here we are again, coming up to autumn and leaving behind the summer where for many of us there will be breaks from work or study, much needed holidays and time away from the normal patterns and restrictions of everyday life. Autumn brings change and nature puts on...

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Uncertainty

When uncertainty presents itself, whatever their upbringing or culture, people feel anxious, stressed and uneasy. When two people come together and form a partnership, uncertainty is, in some cases, shared and in others the discombobulation is doubled. Both sides of...

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Handling difference in relationships

One of the things that still surprises me when couples come to me for therapy is the number that say that they never argue.   Now if they mean by that that they don’t have flaming rows, throwing things at each other in the style of some soaps, that is one thing – but...

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Special Occasions. Managing stress and anxiety.

There are expectations around special occasions which can become stressful and anxious. These in turn can reflect negatively on the couple's interaction in all different life stages, cultures and religions. Shoulds and oughts which dominate on Special days in the...

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