The hated familiar

This blog only touches on the Pandemic.  Some will be relieved to hear this.  We have all read interesting and well researched material on the last 5-6 months depending on where, geographically, people were cited.  I think, however, that we need to...

Books for Couples

Quarantine fatigue is real. After two months in lockdown, Groundhog Day has become a reality and to help us all through the ‘new normal’ our therapists have put together a list of books and Podcasts that we have found useful and often recommend to the couples we...

How do we agree on coming out of lockdown?

One of the things that has happened in the last few weeks are significant changes to our language. Words like ‘pandemic’ and ‘lockdown’ could be used fairly dispassionately at the beginning of 2020. Today that has significantly changed as those words are now highly...

Is Fleabagging your drug of choice?

Huge respect to Phoebe Waller-Bridge for her amazingly creative and groundbreaking tv series, but the term ‘Fleabag’ actually originated in 1839 and was a noun used to describe an inferior bug infested rooming house – a place that should be inviting but...

Do as you would be done by.

The above quote by Mary Wakefield in Water Babies sometimes comes into my mind when I set a task for a couple who are having difficult communication problems. The task involves them talking about what their idea of a ‘couple’ is and what they feel they need from each...