Why Little Things Matter

2020 will go down as a year in which almost everything changed, but one thing that has not is the usual outpouring of the Christmas advertisements.  MacDonald’s asks ‘Are you Reindeer Ready?’, whilst Tesco, encouraging us all to indulge ourselves, proclaims...

Couple Roles in Lockdown and Beyond

Often, relationship counsellors will see individuals on their own. The huge advantage of coming to a couples counsellor, rather than one who deals with issues solely around individuals, is that a long and intense training allows us to ‘see’ them...

When Couples Lie in Couple Therapy

As a therapist, I assume clients will be honest with me, naive as that might sound. This is not to say that people will be completely transparent; I appreciate that we all need to protect ourselves from our wounds and sometimes withhold things that might be difficult...

Fear and Relationships

Speaking of his life experience Nelson Mandela wrote ‘I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid but he who conquers that fear’. And fear has as I know from my clients been high on...

The Presence of Uncertainty

‘The events in our lives are transformative and yet, in the moment of experiencing them, we do not know in which ways they will be transformative. It is unknown.’ (Viktor E. Frankl) We know that complying with the ever-changing restriction rules, and managing the...

Articulating the Importance of our Closest Relationships

Celebrating Rosh Hashana, the Jewish New Year this weekend was a very different experience this year.  Covid 19 prevented many people attending synagogue services and participating in the familiar customs. The rule of six made it difficult for families to...