Change

Never was so much owed by so many to so few…has become a mantra in the UK in terms of our debt to the NHS. This same quote is present today under different circumstances in many areas as well as the NHS.  Patterns and rhythms are altered by law.  We,...

Loneliness in our relationships

If there is anything positive that’s come out from this current Covid pandemic is that issues of loneliness and isolation experienced by so many especially during this last year are firmly at the centre of our awareness. Organisations such as Campaign to End...

Why Little Things Matter

2020 will go down as a year in which almost everything changed, but one thing that has not is the usual outpouring of the Christmas advertisements.  MacDonald’s asks ‘Are you Reindeer Ready?’, whilst Tesco, encouraging us all to indulge ourselves, proclaims...

Couple Roles in Lockdown and Beyond

Often, relationship counsellors will see individuals on their own. The huge advantage of coming to a couples counsellor, rather than one who deals with issues solely around individuals, is that a long and intense training allows us to ‘see’ them...

When Couples Lie in Couple Therapy

As a therapist, I assume clients will be honest with me, naive as that might sound. This is not to say that people will be completely transparent; I appreciate that we all need to protect ourselves from our wounds and sometimes withhold things that might be difficult...

Fear and Relationships

Speaking of his life experience Nelson Mandela wrote ‘I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid but he who conquers that fear’. And fear has as I know from my clients been high on...