When Couples Lie in Couple Therapy

As a therapist, I assume clients will be honest with me, naive as that might sound. This is not to say that people will be completely transparent; I appreciate that we all need to protect ourselves from our wounds and sometimes withhold things that might be difficult...

Fear and Relationships

Speaking of his life experience Nelson Mandela wrote ‘I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid but he who conquers that fear’. And fear has as I know from my clients been high on...

The Presence of Uncertainty

‘The events in our lives are transformative and yet, in the moment of experiencing them, we do not know in which ways they will be transformative. It is unknown.’ (Viktor E. Frankl) We know that complying with the ever-changing restriction rules, and managing the...

Articulating the Importance of our Closest Relationships

Celebrating Rosh Hashana, the Jewish New Year this weekend was a very different experience this year.  Covid 19 prevented many people attending synagogue services and participating in the familiar customs. The rule of six made it difficult for families to...

The hated familiar

This blog only touches on the Pandemic.  Some will be relieved to hear this.  We have all read interesting and well researched material on the last 5-6 months depending on where, geographically, people were cited.  I think, however, that we need to...

Books for Couples

Quarantine fatigue is real. After two months in lockdown, Groundhog Day has become a reality and to help us all through the ‘new normal’ our therapists have put together a list of books and Podcasts that we have found useful and often recommend to the couples we...