Betrayal, Infidelity and Loss

‘The loss of a loved one is one of the most profound experiences of human existence.’ [John Bowlby] The loss of someone greatly loved means the person to whom we thought we were firmly attached has ripped away and our relationship has been torn apart – and we...

No Closure: How to Make Sense of the Unfinished

When a partner dies or a relationship ends suddenly, we experience a visceral shock to our system. At that moment, we can’t think about the “why” much less begin to understand what has happened. We need time to grieve and allow ourselves to accept what has transpired....

Coping with Loss

‘Sometimes it lasts in love. Sometimes it hurts instead…’ Adele ‘The loss of a loved one is one of the most profound experiences of human existence…’ John Bowlby ‘Life can be amazing. And then awful. And then it can be amazing again. And in between the amazing and the...

The Return Journey by Steve Bull

Many emotive and inspiring books have been written about bereavement.  This book, The Return Journey by Steve Bull describes in a generous way his attachment to his late wife Kathryn in the past, present and his future life without her.  The switching...

Death the Avoided Topic: How to work with Loss

During the past year, I have experienced two close deaths (ok, one was a pet). It’s taken time to fully appreciate the impact this has had on me. I’ve learned some fundamental lessons throughout this process, and how some of my narratives about death have been...