Is stonewalling spoiling your relationship?
A New Year and better ways to resolve 2020 conflicts Back in the day, this was only known as ‘shutting down’ Actually the term has been around since the 1800s and is linked to the American Civil War when the Confederate troops were encouraged to...Fair Fighting in Relationships
Watching Boris Johnson and Jeremy Corbyn last week, wearing my ‘therapist’s hat’ it was very clear psychologically what was going on. In relational terms (or rather ‘non-relational’ as neither of them wanted to develop a genuine rapport with the other) it was a...Having Difficult Conversations Needs to Happen before Real Change can Happen
I watched an interview with Melissa Gates, co-founder of the Bill and Melissa Gates Foundation. Bill and Melissa work with partners around the world to help effect change globally and then scale solutions down to a local level. The foundation works to empower...Couples and Arguing
Before distinguishing one arguing style to another it’s helpful to normalise “arguing”. Couples argue and it’s healthy to communicate one’s point of view…
Anger and the Couple
Like a sniffer dog recognising the scent of explosives, we all learn to be alert to any hint of danger to our psychological well-being. Whenever we have…