Why is it so hard to say sorry?

When working with couples, I have often noticed a reluctance, a stubbornness, a resistance that makes it difficult for them to soften enough to say “I am sorry” to their partner. It feels as if these words are somehow an admission of something deeply shameful,...

AI and Communication

No one I think, can be in any doubt that AI and tools like ChatGPT are set to revolutionise our lives, and the ways we communicate with each other over the coming years.  A friend of mine was struggling to write a few paragraphs about a club he is a member of with the...

Learning from the Patient

This title refers to a book by Patrick Casement and was both informative and self-effacing at the same time. We find at Coupleworks that we learn all the time from our clients and never more so than during 2020 and 2021.  Resilience, tenacity, the will to alter...

What has Covid-19 taught us.

As a Coupleworks therapist, I have always respected my clients and their agenda for coming into therapy, no matter what the presenting problem seems to be.  During the last 15 months, my respect and admiration has grown for people in very difficult circumstances, who...

Managing Uncertainty during Lockdown

For therapists, uncertainty is an issue that often comes up in therapy and never more so than now.  It feels that over the past eight months when the first lockdown started, couples therapy sessions became more focused on uncertainty and anxiety than I can...

Acknowledgement

I prepared this blog some weeks before the shut (prefer that to lock) down.  I then re read it during the start of the Pandemic and found little to alter.  Now, crossing fingers that we are nearing the back end of restriction, I have read so much which bears...