Couple Conversation and Healthy Communication

A review of ‘Eight Dates – Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love’ (John & Julie Gottman) Falling in love can bring an intoxicating feeling that we are seen as we are, and that we are accepted as we are, and that we are perceived to be special. We...

Choice.

When couples or individuals come to my Practice I sometimes get a sense that they feel life is controlling them and they have no alternative but to continue on in the same, possibly negative and damaging way.  It feels as if there is no way out. Becoming stuck in a...

Relationships – which ‘season’ are you in?

A friend of mine was recently facilitating a group of people from the Voluntary and Community Sector.  In seeking to assess where they were at in their work, he talked about how organisations often go through different ‘seasons’ in their lives: Spring, with its fresh...

Communication: it comes in many forms

Some time ago Coupleworks decided to set up a Twitter account and it has been a fascinating experience. We were curious and proceeded cautiously – wondering whether anything worthwhile could come from a message limited by 140 characters. But we now follow over a...

Mistakes in communication, memory and perception

Earlier this month I was approached by Katie O’Malley to give some comments for an article she was writing for Elle Magazine online about how to be how to be happy in love. Read here As part of the brief Katie sent me a Ted Talk by Stan Tatkin, which I found really...

Couples: Communication and Conversation

Coupleworks’ counsellors frequently meet couples desperate to improve their communication – and often start by asking about the beginning of the relationship. ‘You’re My World’ Cilla Black The time of falling in love can be marked by fascinated curiosity, rapt...