Every day we talk to couples because they are either struggling with their relationship and want to stay in it and want *more from it, or they want to get out of a relationship that is no longer working and is causing distress and pain. Equally single clients are often looking to be in a relationship and wondering why they are finding it difficult to find a partner.
The turning point is finding new ways to face these challenges and the key to transforming your relationship starts with understanding our emotional connections. Working with emotions can give you a stronger and more vital relationship.
Getting a clearer picture of how emotions play a role in your relationships opens up new ways of understanding yourself and engaging with your partner.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) enables couples to become more trusting of their emotions and in turn more tuned in to their emotional experience which makes for a more effective relationship.
EFT helps change on-going negative cycles of arguing and conflict by helping couples understand their more vulnerable emotions of fear and hurt.
The EFT Therapy process focuses not only on what happens between two partners but it also encourages each partner to develop greater self-awareness of his or her own emotions.
If you are lacking in emotional self –awareness you may:
- React rather than respond to your partner
- Not know how your arguments escalate
- Not realise how your emotions are sometimes overwhelming
If you are more emotionally self –aware you are better able to:
- Notice an emotion when it presents itself
- Manage your responses to others better
- Choose a response with more awareness.
Dawn Kaffel