How do we agree on coming out of lockdown?

One of the things that has happened in the last few weeks are significant changes to our language. Words like ‘pandemic’ and ‘lockdown’ could be used fairly dispassionately at the beginning of 2020. Today that has significantly changed as those words are now highly...

Couple Conversation and Healthy Communication

A review of ‘Eight Dates – Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love’ (John & Julie Gottman) Falling in love can bring an intoxicating feeling that we are seen as we are, and that we are accepted as we are, and that we are perceived to be special. We...

Working with Transgenders

transgender /tranzˈdʒɛndə,transˈdʒɛndə/ adjective denoting or relating to a person whose sense of personal identity and gender does not correspond with their birth sex. Over the past few years I have had the opportunity of working with two transgender individuals. It...

Getting a better understanding of the problem

When a couple starts relationship counselling the therapist spends time trying to get a clear idea of the issues that are causing strife. Often the couple is stuck in a repetitive pattern of blame and complaint and feel frustrated that they have not managed to break...

Stuck Couples

All therapists will know the feeling when the air in the therapy room feels thick and heavy. For both clients and counsellor, everything can seem to be slowing down to a tiring pace which defies logic. This is often the ‘stuck’ moment. As a couple...