Books for Couples

Quarantine fatigue is real. After two months in lockdown, Groundhog Day has become a reality and to help us all through the ‘new normal’ our therapists have put together a list of books and Podcasts that we have found useful and often recommend to the couples we...

Is stonewalling spoiling your relationship?

A New Year and better ways to resolve 2020 conflicts  Back in the day, this was only known as ‘shutting down’  Actually the term has been around since the 1800s and is linked to the American Civil War   when the Confederate troops were encouraged to...

Couple Conversation and Healthy Communication

A review of ‘Eight Dates – Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love’ (John & Julie Gottman) Falling in love can bring an intoxicating feeling that we are seen as we are, and that we are accepted as we are, and that we are perceived to be special. We...

Listening with two ears

Epictetus, a Greek philosopher once said ‘We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak’. In practice of course, for many of us that is easier said than done and we need to train ourselves in the art of listening carefully to what...

The idea of a ‘Normal’ Relationship

‘If it is true that there as many minds as there are heads, Then there are as many kinds of love as there are hearts’ (Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina) The recent controversy in Birmingham schools over sex and relationship education has exposed the belief, held by some,...