Anger and the Couple

Like a sniffer dog recognising the scent of explosives, we all learn to be alert to any hint of danger to our psychological well-being. Whenever we have…

Jealousy: How to Embrace and Talk about it with our Partner

Dr. Ari Kiev, a New York psychiatrist, who has written on the subject of jealousy, calls it “the most painful” of human emotions. He claims that jealousy often strikes in the early stages of a relationship when the couple have not developed a sufficiently strong...

Ducks, birds and humans .. cont’d from 22/11/2015

Taking a leaf out of John Bowlby’s attachment theory, originating in the study of sheep, I have spent time observing Mallards and Moorhens. Unlike Swans, I don’t think they are monogamus, however both the beautifully  coloured male Mallard and the black...

Group member or stand alone.

Group member or a stand alone. Group behaviour is something which can be a comfort if the members know and follow the rules, the culture and the language.  Belonging can tick boxes for some  people and brings a sense of ease and security.  Rules have to be followed,...