Autumnal Change and Uncertainty

Let’s start with the premise that change is usually unsettling. The human brain is generally not programmed to thrive on risk, so habits and learned ways of thinking can be a source of comfort in our daily lives. The wise American philosopher William James stated...

Death the Avoided Topic: How to work with Loss

During the past year, I have experienced two close deaths (ok, one was a pet). It’s taken time to fully appreciate the impact this has had on me. I’ve learned some fundamental lessons throughout this process, and how some of my narratives about death have been...

A Healthy Relationship involves Acceptance

Creating A Safe Couple Relationship with Your Partner Entails Finding a Way to Accept the ‘As Is’ (Ella Fitzgerald: ‘My Funny Valentine)     ‘You’re my funny valentine, Sweet comic valentine, You make me smile with my heart… But don’t change a hair for me, not if you...

The idea of a ‘Normal’ Relationship

‘If it is true that there as many minds as there are heads, Then there are as many kinds of love as there are hearts’ (Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina) The recent controversy in Birmingham schools over sex and relationship education has exposed the belief, held by some,...

Adulting

The term Adulting has been thrown around on social media for the past few years and many of the definitions are often ladened with their own inference and judgement. One definition defines Adulting (v): to do grown up things and hold responsibilities such as, a 9-5...