ONE: When we focus on work…
- • We can often prioritise the demands made by work over the demands emanating from relationships. There can be a disproportionate focus on job over family.
- • The requirements of the job seem more straightforward, more clearly defined and more easily understood. We list the assignments and achieve the deadlines and, as a result, receive a reassuring sense of competency. There can be a satisfying confirmation of our identity and role in the world.
- • Feeling in control, being task-orientated, receiving positive feedback from colleagues, can stave off a susceptibility to insecurity and anxiety.
- • Work can increase our confidence and self-esteem, and soothe a fear of failure; particularly if we have a tendency to feel ‘not-good-enough’
- • In addition, the time and energy expended is difficult for a partner to challenge when it is justified in terms of earning money and developing a career.