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Skype and Face to Face Therapy

Coupleworks therapists use both forms of counselling to help couples and individuals to talk with an objective third person present. The therapist can interpret what they hear into less confrontational dialogue enabling each person to hear what is really being said. From that point they can begin to manage confrontation, resentment, hurt a sense of unfairness, insults, humiliation, guilt, shame and a host of other painful feelings. It also helps to locate the root of those feelings which is often many years before the couple met.
Using Skype or face to face contact is, in part, down to location, time, babysitting costs, work hours, privacy, confidentiality and other day to day reasons. Face to face work, if all those reasons do not present a problem for a couple, is the original tried and tested arena for what is very sensitive work. Skype has been introduced as a way to communicate when some or all of those problems are stopping a couple from seeking help.
Face to face communication of any kind is a social skill which is changing and many people are preferring a less immediate response to difficult emotional issues. Skype is one more way of using technology to work for us in a helpful way.
Over time, since Skype was introduced within the Coupleworks framework, it has been found to have some of its own advantages. Not least that the pauses during a session when a picture becomes pixilated or the sound starts to echo, rather than causing alarm, produces a breathing space to think and rephrase something said in anger or used as a moment to reflect.
There is really no way to compare the two, but to use both or either if it aids and advances the healing process can only be a good thing.

Clare Ireland

Working with Skype

Working with Skype.
Since the advent of Skype, it has become hard to imagine what happened to people seeking therapy in a new and unfamiliar area. The geographical, cultural and boundary issues which arose brought up feelings of insecurity, abandonment and loss.

Leaving your own country, friends, community, customs and family is hard for many reasons and someone in the middle of therapy can feel very alone. For couples where only one person has been relocated, the other has had to face a difficult life choice. Loss of their job and the loneliness of being the one left without a purpose in an unfamiliar environment. It is important they feel secure and that confidentiality is maintained.

In a smaller community these needs become harder to find. The possibility of meeting your therapist in a big city like London is small, however where groups of different communities form for their social life, this becomes almost impossible.

When Skype made an appearance some of these issues became easier to surmount. It is also possible to do telephone and online work in these circumstances but with more use of Skype it is becoming the best way of replicating the counselling room.

Clare Ireland